A fun look into the lives and lifestyles of some of our favorite mamas.
The desire to have children is something most women dream about their whole life but for many the journey is hard and filled with uncertainty.
This month I sat down with Jackie Carl, mama to Will and Marley, to hear about her long road to becoming mama.
By Catherine Hill
At Dondolo our main mission is to empower motherhood...Why do you think infertility is such a taboo topic amongst women?
As someone who went through infertility struggles for six years, I remember feeling inadequate as a woman and wife when we couldn’t get pregnant. Whatever insecurities I already had were magnified and piled on top of once I realized that I fell into the “infertile” category at the age of 30. By nature, people do not want to talk about their insecurities and infertility brings up a lot of them. We felt so alone until we start talking to friends and realized, there’s actually a village of people who have experienced or are experiencing infertility all around us. Once we felt the need for additional support, we partnered up with some leaders in our church to start the infertility support group which is still going strong 6 years later! Looking back, there is no doubt in our minds that our infertility struggles led us to align with God’s will for our lives. He was grooming us to be the parents our (His) children need us to be and deserve.
What would you say to someone who is considering IVF?
First step, find the right doctor for you. Find someone that you are comfortable with and one you trust. We’ve been treated by a doctor we didn’t feel great about and one we did and it just made our struggle more frustrating until we found the right one for us. Also, just take one day/shot/appointment at a time. It’s so hard to process all that is involved with each step of IVF, but if you literally just put one foot in front of the other and focus on what is immediately next instead of looking at the entire picture, you’ll have a better chance of maintaining your sanity.
Being a mom yourself how does it make you feel to know that when you buy Dondolo clothing you are providing jobs for single mothers in Colombia?
I believe it’s a beautiful way to connect with women who want to provide for their children in ways I’ll never experience or fully understand. I’ve always believed that it’s by God’s grace that I was born into a privileged home where all of my needs and many of my wants were met. My education was paid for and my mother was able to stay home with us as I’m sure many of these women in Colombia would like to do if given the option. I think this is a very creative way to represent and demonstrate love for our children between us and these Colombian mothers.
Name one thing you have gained since being a mom.
Perspective on how much God loves us. He loves us more than we love our families and that’s just incredible to know and to pass onto my children.
What are some of your favorite thing to do with the kids in Dallas?
We love to take the kids to the Children’s Garden, Perot Museum, Dallas Museum of Art, nature hikes around Davis Park and when the weather agrees, we like to go to the golf course and let our 2 year old, Marley, run around while my husband teaches our 4 year old, Will, the finer points of golf. My husband has cleverly discovered a way to wear Will out by making him race the golf cart to his ball after he hits it. It works every time and I laugh every time…win/win!
What is one thing you hope to teach Will and Marley?
To always maintain perspective throughout life. As the song simply states, if we turn our eyes upon Jesus and look full in His wonderful face; the things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace.